When
the Program study is emphasized, and we work
toward a particular objective, we find that the
client/student pays closer attention to what they
are expected to do.
They’re usually surprised that we care
they get the details, and they understand them.
By not
rushing through, taking the necessary
time to understand, clients exhibit even deeper
interest, at the puzzle presented to them.
We
slow them --one more peg, to pay mind to
what their hands are doing --while the mind,
hands, the eyes, and body language, emotions and feelings --are all performing what seems to be
--their own tasks.
Humans
often function like wound-tight steel
--springing back to its familiar nest of
confusion.
Slow
the client a third peg, and they look at their
complexities --one at a time.
Now the real work begins,
by taking control over any un-wanted or un-desirable behavior, and we do this in
fractions.
Untangling
a web of emotional turmoil (steel-wool) without
doing damage --is a very delicate process, being
careful not to snap or break anything,
especially the very fragile memory, that could
become volumes of stored hurts, and pain.
As we
go along, we aim to encourage a search for
more detail.
We work
at asking the right questions to gently
guide a client through the maze of memories,
being careful to stop them, or give a detour
when they approach a too delicate place or dead
end --that could be terribly frightening for them. Distraction
is now strategy.
As the
client walks through and to a place you
know will stop them, we can gently
prepare them for what might be ahead, giving
continued support, as they near a questionable
area.
Reading people is an
art, like reading the horses --learned from the ‘Soft Touch Quantum Horsemanship'
-portion of Our Programs Programs. The horse represents a personality, or a challenge that
must be met on equal ground or to be conquered.
The MBC
Program is not for inexperienced persons to
coach, however, knowing pain, and getting through
the forest, learning your own lessons well, (by
experience) may be more valuable to someone who will feel that you understand. Been there -done that, is worth many degrees.
Often, what has been book learned, must be
ditched –to listen to your gut
feelings, and your ‘heart.
Simply close the book, and learn to feel and listen.
MBC looks at a page in one’s
life as they open it to us. Knowing what is at hand, as discussed with the
client, will gain their trust, with a shared
direction, while giving the client the power of
making small decisions, and setting their own
goals.
It is
very important that the client is informed that we offer
‘Strategy Oriented’ Programs. This will
give the coach a wider range for experimentation,
without telling the client, exactly what you
are trying to do for them. This is a delicate line to walk, to keep client
trust & faith. Experienced
coaches recognize more than a client wants known.
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We
form a very powerful team, especially when working in adjunct
with Mental Health & Delinquency
Agencies. Clients love that you are not a Professional --in their eyes.
After all,
you just teach riding!
When
they catch on to your strategy, and what
they are really gaining from the program --you just share a smile.
The
beauty of MBC are that the details of painful situations
do not need to be discussed. We simply mention their
body language, and guide them towards wanting to
know why they do that, or --where did this behavior come from? Perhaps it
could
remind them of someone else's issues.
